Tips to Overcoming Dating Fears Over 40
Most of us over 40 years of age have a dating history, and possibly a marriage or two. This experience creates a track record, which includes some mistakes, and memories we’d love to obliterate.
So, of course, there are fears of re-visiting these not so fond memories, when we start dating again. The positive of being on the more mature side of the dating coin, is your wisdom, that can only be gained after years on this planet.
You know what you like, what you don’t. You can smell out a bad piece of cheese, like it’s grown legs and is running after the mice. Most importantly you know yourself much better than when you were in your twenties or thirties.
Let’s face the dating fears and figure out how to get past them, so you can get on with your romantic life and find your prince or princess.
The perfect match may be right under your nose, or across the ocean, but your quest can be a fun adventure. Here are five of the biggest dating fears that keep us hostage from the love we deserve:
- Picking the wrong person…again!
Go ahead and say it! You’re worried he may be the ax murderer that has been evading police. Men are concerned that she seems a bit too perfect and is hiding her secret crazy bitch.You’ve dated several frogs in the past and you feel like you’re destined to attract the wrong ones. Go ahead and say it! You’re worried he may be the ax murderer that has been evading police. Men are concerned that she seems a bit too perfect and is hiding her secret crazy bitch. You’ve dated several frogs in the past and you feel like you’re destined to attract the wrong ones. It’s okay to be a troll in the dating arena. Check out their online profile and go way beyond. Scout their social media, police reports, and, LinkedIn. It is public record if they have gone bankrupt or had a foreclosure. Trust your gut and don’t second guess yourself. Remember the wisdom we spoke of above? It’s a well honed radar.
- You’re not attractive or sexy enough
It’s imperative that your self-confidence is strong. The more confident you are the more likely you are to choose a person who is more deserving of you.Furthermore, one with high self-esteem radiates beauty and is always more attractive. A person who is afraid of another with confidence, is the one you need to avoid.Hit the gym, eat healthy, and take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Do things to push yourself out of your comfort zone to help build confidence even more.If you’re doing all these things, you’ll start to notice people flocking to you. You’ll be a babe magnet. You might even have to invest in a babe swatter-awayer. Yes, I did make that up, but maybe it’s my next invention.
The dreaded no show. Nothing worse than sitting endlessly for someone who stands you up. Let’s remember, it could be you doing the same thing!I’m not suggesting you run if someone is not what you hoped for…but I am saying it’s okay to cut the date very short. That’s the classier way to handle a date that is going no-where.Take the no shows as a gift, that they weren’t the right person for you anyway.
- Feel Socially Inept
Are you an introvert or get tongue tied when you’re around the opposite sex? The more you date and put yourself out there, the easier it becomes.Consider making the investment to hire a dating coach to help you gain some tools to make your communication more natural. More importantly, it will make interacting in all social situations more enjoyable.
- SexMaybe it’s been a few years or you’ve been with the same person for decades. What are the trending sexual positions? Are you supposed to shave it all off or leave a landing pad down there? Is it okay to bring my lubricant or will they think something is wrong with me?Is AIDS still an issue? Maybe it’s been a few years or you’ve been with the same person for decades.What are the trending sexual positions? Are you supposed to shave it all off or leave a landing pad down there? Is it okay to bring my lubricant or will they think something is wrong with me?Is AIDS still an issue? Answers: Sexual positions are the same as they as they always have been. It’s okay to try something new! Definitely groom down there.The 70’s bush is super out. If lubricant makes sex more enjoyable, bring it. It’ll be more enjoyable for both of you.Yes, AIDS and STDs are still out there. Protection is always non-negotiable!Anytime we do something that’s new or not comfortable, it is scary. What is scarier is staying home alone, watching re-runs, and noticing the world going by and you’re just a witness.Get out there!The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Remember to work on your self-confidence before you take the leap, and trust your intuition. Who knows what exciting adventures in love await you?